Yes, music is about choice. You get to decide. No one else can tell you what you like. Sure they can tell you what THEY like and that may influence you but no one can really tell you what to like.
Consequently there are a zillion types of music. Yes that is a real statistic. 🙂 Honestly I doubt anyone can classify them all and I certainly won’t try. But the beauty of it all is that everyone is different but we still like to hang out in groups. I’m sure you have noticed in your life how you became part of a group of friends or knew others who all hung out together.
It turns out that social pressure will often cause people to pretend to like or maybe even believe they like a certain type of music just because their friends do. Or perhaps somehow you decided a certain type of music was “cool” and played it even though you weren’t really sure yourself.
Sometimes even as professional musicians we play music that we don’t like because someone else in our “group” wrote it, liked it or so on. For the most part any group I was in really did have similar tastes in music as I did. They would find bands that played music I wasn’t familiar with but USUALLY I liked it, not because they did, rather because we had similar taste in music.
Not every band is so lucky and musical tastes and egos are very common reasons for breakups of bands. Egos are probably a MUCH larger percentage of the problems. Still, musical taste can be a big problem to some of the biggest of bands.
One famous example is the rock group Styx. This will be an oversimplification, but original member Dennis DeYoung had significantly different musical taste in music compared to the other members of the band. Dennis liked the rock opera style and the other members tended to want a harder rock. Yet Dennis wrote and sang many of the hits that endure today even though Styx tours constantly without him. Lots of stories revolve around this but it is my understanding that the Mr. Roboto tour pretty much had the rest of the guys in arms against him. (me too!)
The point of this is that you need to listen to your own inner voice and pursue it. It is YOU that you need to please or it won’t last. You will find others who have similar taste in music as time goes one unless you are big into aardvark hoedown music. 🙂 Not much of a call for that.
Hopefully you are involved in music even further than just listening to it. I hope you have found a musical instrument that is for you. Or perhaps you like to sing. Music can relieve your stress and take you to places you can’t imagine.
If you haven’t found that instrument for you I encourage you to try. It is never too late to learn an instrument such as guitar or maybe learn piano. Maybe you have another instrument in mind. It doesn’t matter.
I hear people say all the time, “I wasn’t given the gift of musical talent.” While there may be a shred of truth to that, I can tell you that PASSION fuels that musical talent much more than native skill.
If you want it bad enough you can do it. I have watched kids go from zero to near guitar genius in 2 years. WHY? They didn’t do ANYTHING else. Sure there is the occasional genius 8 year old concert pianist or violinist. Guess what? They don’t do anything else either.
So it is a matter of CHOICE. If you DECIDE you are going to learn guitar and be the next Eddie Van Halen, and COMMIT to the hard work perhaps you can be as good as Eddie sans drugs and alcohol.
Music is about choice my friend. Don’t let ANYONE tell you that you CAN’T be good at piano, guitar or anything. But just “kinda” wanting to learn guitar won’t cut it. You must decide you are going to learn. Don’t change your mind. It will happen.
I hope that you find the happiness in music I have.
As always, your honest comments are welcome.